She Played Annoying To Get
Posted: April 13th, 2008
Submitted by Oblivious, Age 26, The Netherlands
I met this pretty young girl at sports, but didn’t really pay her much attention. We basically never said a word to each other for half a year, maybe a year or so. Then one evening, the group went out to a club, and all of the sudden, she came on to me quite aggressively. There was some close/erotic dancing, some kissing, but then she had to go, as she had to ride home with somebody.
Enter phase two: we exchanged msn addresses, and chatted until deep into the night. Cams were discovered, and digital fooling around was the next step in the evolution. She obviously liked attention, and I was eager to give it to her. She, however, made it clear “it” wasn’t going to happen between us. Although you can’t blame a man for trying, that reality started to sink in, and I had my peace with it.
A year passed, and nothing really happened besides online encounters. Then her parents went away on holiday and she asked me if I wanted to come over and meet her friends. I stayed there for a number of days. One evening, we were alone, the porn channel came on, and we started to fool around. She made it a bit of a challenge by playing hard to get, but was obviously enjoying the attention, and second base was explored for some time. Then, all of the sudden, she started squirming and said “no.” We are not talking a “no, giggle giggle,” here, we are talking a pretty firm “no.” I said “c’mon, like you mind,” and her reply was a sincere “yes.” So I stopped. I didn’t want to be that guy who oversteps the boundary set by the girl. I literaly *hate* those guys who can’t take no for an answer, and where the story ends up in some sort of rape, or deep regrets on one side. So, I stopped. Two days later, she was fooling around right before my eyes with another guy, and things basically went south from there between us, as I had developed a certain level of emotional attachment to her.
Some time passed, and after half a year we had occasional chats on msn. After a while, the event came up, and she said “I wouldn’t have minded if you had taken it further back then.” Now if I hate one thing more then the guys who can’t take no for an answer, it’s the girls who actually stimulate behaviour like that by playing mind games. Don’t get me wrong; the “dance of love” can be fun and challenging. Nothing more boring then shooting a fish in a barrel, and nothing wrong with playing a bit of hard to get sometimes, but there is taking things to far…
I was pretty close to hating her guts for the rest of my life, but after a while was able to shrug it off. We see each other at sports and on msn still, but the trust is gone, and will never be restored to the level it was. If the chance ever arises again, I am pretty sure I would not even bother to seize it either.
Did I smack myself on the head for not getting laid in the end? Of course I did! But I thank myself even more for not turning into that guy who can’t take no for an answer!
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Good for you for doing the right thing. Your only options in that situation are press on against her will, or start begging, and neither of those options are worthy of a real man.
“Did I smack myself on the head for not getting laid in the end?”
You shouldn’t. This story is about her failure to get laid, not yours.
wow… you’re… a great guy.
I hope you meet someone who is worth it.
I thank god that there are still men like you in the world. I don’t do mind games, especially not regarding sex, but sometimes the men feel that it’s all part of the fore-play.
Don’t feel you lost anything in this encounter, you acted the right way, and it’s her loss that she didn’t end up with a great guy like you.
Hé Oblivious!
Joh daar heb je helemaal niets aan verloren!! Dat geldt echter beslist niet voor haar!!! Niet alleen getuigt dit soort gedrag van gebrek aan respect voor jou, maar zeker ook van een zekere argeloosheid die haar vroeg of laat nog wel eens duur zou kunnen komen te staan. Niet iedere man beschikt over de normen en waarden die jij klaarblijkelijk wel hebt!
Goed gedaan!!
You did absolutely the right thing. The term is “pricktease” and she is it, and she is toxic psycho hell. Not only did you preserve your morality, and presumably hers, but you saved yourself from an emotional entanglement with the most evil vile backstabbing creature in the universe. Yeah, you are a good guy and you did the Right Thing, but you really really did save yourself from an infernal hell nightmare.
Oh and by the way, the guys that do “press on” - Fuck them, they should go to jail, and the girls that send out this vibe are responsible for date rape as much as men who think that women’s rape fantasies are real.
Just don’t ever go there, ever, period.
What the hell is Sports?
I jumped out of bed like a scalded cat the first time I heard a “no” - turned out she was just wanting to tease me but suffice it to say turned out to be how not to get laid lesson (for HER).
Good decisions, dude!
Respect, man. I played it the same way when I’d lined up a “come visit me while my parents are gone” thing with this girl, and it was within two minutes of me walking in she said that she had thought about it and didn’t want to go through with it. I said, “I will take you at your word, but I will ask you one more time just to make sure: Are you positive?” Yes. So I took my leave. A day or two later we’re talking online and she asks me, “Why didn’t you try to change my mind?” Arrrgh!!!